No Toxic Positivity
These pages exist because we've read thousands of posts from people struggling with the same things. No sugarcoating. No “just think positive.” Just honest talk about what you're going through and how ILTY might help—or might not.
Cost, access, waitlists, bad experiences—real barriers that keep people from getting help.
When you know you need help but the cost makes it impossible. You're not lazy or unwilling — you're broke.
Read more →The math doesn't work. $200+ per session, weekly, indefinitely. Even with insurance the copays add up fast.
Read more →You pay for insurance every month. It should cover therapy. But deductibles, networks, and fine print say otherwise.
Read more →You finally opened up to someone and then they disappeared. Unreturned calls, cancelled sessions, no explanation.
Read more →You've called 15 therapists. Every single one is full. The system that's supposed to help you doesn't have room for you.
Read more →You know you should go. You want to go. But the idea of sitting in a room and telling a stranger your worst thoughts is terrifying.
Read more →You tried therapy. Maybe more than once. It didn't help. Now everyone tells you to try again and you're done hearing it.
Read more →You're paying someone to help you, but you can't tell them the truth. The shame, the fear of judgment, the things too dark to say out loud.
Read more →You're not suicidal. You're not having a breakdown. You're just... not okay. And apparently that's not enough to qualify for help.
Read more →You finally decided to get help. The earliest appointment is in four months. What are you supposed to do until then?
Read more →Journaling, meditation, breathing apps—what happens when the popular advice doesn't fit.
When putting your thoughts on paper amplifies the spiral instead of calming it.
Read more →When you know you need to express yourself but the words just won't come.
Read more →When sitting in silence just gives your anxiety a megaphone.
Read more →When every mental health app feels like another chore on your already overwhelming list.
Read more →When you have all the knowledge but still can't make yourself feel better.
Read more →When breathing exercises feel like a patronizing non-answer to real pain.
Read more →When self-care advice requires energy you don't have.
Read more →When your phone is a graveyard of mental health apps you used for three days.
Read more →The weight of needing support when you feel like you've already asked too much.
When asking for help feels like you're dragging everyone down with you.
Read more →When you scroll through your contacts and can't find a single person to call.
Read more →When you can see the patience draining from people you love every time you bring it up.
Read more →When loneliness and the need for solitude exist at the same time.
Read more →When you rely on your partner for emotional processing and it's straining the relationship.
Read more →When everyone around you seems to be handling life while you're barely surviving.
Read more →When the feelings hit at 3am and there's no one you can call without being selfish.
Read more →When you hide your pain from the people who raised you because their worry would be another thing to carry.
Read more →Moving, remote work, life transitions—isolation that isn't solved by "just put yourself out there."
Chased the dream of living abroad—now you're drowning in loneliness no one warned you about.
Read more →Therapy exists in your new country but it's in a language you can't cry in.
Read more →You wanted flexibility. You got a life where the only voice you hear all day is your own.
Read more →One falling out, one breakup, one move—and suddenly your entire social circle evaporated.
Read more →Everyone's celebrating your achievement while you're quietly terrified that the structure of your entire life just ended.
Read more →You spent decades being 'Mom' or 'Dad' and now the house is empty and so is your sense of self.
Read more →You worked your whole life for this. Now you have all the time in the world and no idea what to do with it.
Read more →The silence in your apartment isn't peaceful—it's deafening, and you weren't prepared for how loud it is.
Read more →You're surrounded by people but no one gets the things that shaped you—your food, your humor, your grief, your joy.
Read more →Your people exist—they're just 3 timezones, 2 flights, and a lifetime of scheduling conflicts away.
Read more →Scripted chatbots, generic advice, no memory—what people actually want from AI support.
You tried an AI therapy app and the responses felt hollow, scripted, and nothing like talking to someone who actually gets it.
Read more →Every session starts from zero. You've explained your situation a dozen times, and the chatbot still greets you like a stranger.
Read more →No matter what you say, you get the same recycled tips: deep breathing, gratitude journaling, positive affirmations. Every. Single. Time.
Read more →You don't want another app that walks you through exercises. You want to actually talk about what's going on.
Read more →Replika was fun at first, but when you needed real support, the conversations stayed surface-level and the companion focus felt off.
Read more →You want AI help for your mental health, but every app is either childish, patronizing, or trying to be your virtual girlfriend.
Read more →Every AI chatbot just validates whatever you say. Sometimes you need someone to push back and help you see what you're missing.
Read more →You're skeptical. You've seen the hype and the marketing. You want honest answers about whether AI mental health tools deliver real results.
Read more →These pages are inspired by real posts from people on Reddit, forums, and social media. The struggles are real. The feelings are valid. ILTY is one option—not the only one, and not always the right one.
ILTY is free during beta. No credit card. No commitment. Just a conversation to see if it helps with what you're going through.