“I realized yesterday that I went the entire day without speaking out loud. Not a single word. I live alone and work remotely and some days the only notification I get is a Slack message that says 'noted.'”
You fought for remote work. The flexibility is great. The silence is killing you. Days blur together in your apartment, and somewhere between the second coffee and the evening doom-scroll, you realize you haven't had a real conversation in 72 hours. ILTY isn't a coworker or a friend, but it's a voice that responds when the silence gets too loud.
Remote work solved a lot of problems. No commute, no open-plan office hell, no forced small talk. But it also quietly removed something you didn't realize you needed: the ambient social contact that kept you tethered to other humans. The hallway chat. The lunch invite. The random conversation in the kitchen. None of those things felt important until they were gone.
And you can't really complain about it because everyone either envies your setup or tells you to 'just go to a coffee shop.' As if sitting near strangers with laptops is the same as actually knowing people. The loneliness of remote work is specifically the loneliness of being alone during the hours when everyone else is around people.
•The casual social interactions that used to happen naturally at work—the ones that didn't feel important—were actually doing heavy lifting for your mental health
•Remote work removes the structure that forced you to leave the house, get dressed, and be around humans, and without that structure, isolation creeps in gradually
•Video calls are cognitively exhausting but socially empty—they drain your energy without filling your social tank
•Living alone plus working remotely creates a compounding isolation effect where days can pass without meaningful human contact
On days when you haven't spoken to anyone, ILTY is a way to process what's going on in your head. It's not a replacement for human connection, but it breaks the spiral of total isolation.
When every day is the same room, same chair, same routine—ILTY can help you figure out what's missing and what you actually need, versus what you think you should need.
You can tell ILTY that you love remote work AND that it's making you miserable. Both things are true. You don't have to pick a side.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Maybe partly, but there's a difference between choosing solitude and having it imposed on you by your work setup. Even introverts need some human contact. If you're feeling lonely, that's not introversion—that's a signal that your social needs aren't being met, regardless of your personality type.
That depends on you. Some people solve remote loneliness with a hybrid setup, coworking spaces, or just building more social activities outside of work. Going fully back to an office is one option, but it's not the only one. The key is being honest about what you need and not pretending the isolation is fine when it isn't.
It helps with the processing part, not the connection part. ILTY can help you articulate what you're feeling, figure out what you need, and notice patterns—like realizing you haven't left the house in two weeks. But it can't replace human connection. Use it as a tool to understand your loneliness better, then take action on what you learn.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.