“Everyone keeps saying 'congratulations!' and I just want to scream. I have no idea what I'm doing. All my friends scattered to different cities. The structure that held my life together for 16 years is just... gone. I wake up and there's nothing I have to do and it's terrifying.”
For your entire life, someone told you what came next. Elementary, middle school, high school, college. And now? Nothing. No syllabus, no semester structure, no built-in social life. Just a diploma and a terrifying amount of freedom. ILTY won't give you a life plan, but it's a space to be honest about how lost you feel when everyone expects you to feel excited.
Post-graduation depression is real and wildly underrecognized. You just spent your entire conscious life in a structured system that told you what to do, when to do it, surrounded you with peers your age, and gave you clear markers of progress. That system vanished overnight, and in its place is... an apartment you're not sure you can afford, a job that doesn't feel like 'you,' and weekends with no plans.
The social loss alone is massive. In college, you were surrounded by friends constantly. Meals together, studying together, living together. Now everyone's in different cities, working different schedules, and the group chat is slowly dying. Making plans requires coordinating calendars weeks in advance instead of just walking down the hall.
And there's this pressure to have it figured out. Your parents want to know your 'plan.' LinkedIn is full of people your age announcing dream jobs. Meanwhile you're eating cereal for dinner wondering if this is what adulthood actually feels like or if you're doing it wrong.
•You lost the only life structure you've ever known—school provided identity, community, routine, and purpose all at once, and all of it disappeared simultaneously
•The transition from structured achievement (grades, degrees) to open-ended adult life creates a goal vacuum that's genuinely disorienting
•Your social infrastructure was location-dependent: it existed because you were all in the same place, and now you're not
•Society celebrates graduation as an ending, but it's actually a beginning—and beginnings are supposed to be messy and scary
You don't have to say you're 'so excited for the next chapter.' You can tell ILTY that you're terrified and don't know what you're doing and miss your college friends desperately.
For years, 'student' was your identity. Now what? ILTY can help you explore who you are outside of an institution, without rushing you to figure it out.
When your best friends are suddenly 3 timezones away and you're eating dinner alone for the first time in 4 years, ILTY is there for the transition.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Yes. It doesn't have a formal clinical name, but research shows that the transition out of higher education is a period of significantly elevated depression and anxiety risk. The simultaneous loss of structure, community, identity, and clear goals is a legitimate psychological stressor. You're not being dramatic.
For most people, the acute disorientation of post-graduation life eases within 6-12 months as you build new routines and connections. But 'eases' doesn't mean 'resolves on its own'—you have to actively build the life structure that school used to provide. That takes effort, and ILTY can be one small part of processing your way through it.
Absolutely not. They're performing fine on social media just like you probably are. Post-graduation struggles are incredibly common—most people just don't talk about them because admitting you're lost feels like admitting you failed. You didn't fail. The system that structured your life ended, and adjusting is hard.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.