“It's 3am and I'm lying here with this weight on my chest and the only people I could call are asleep and I'd feel terrible waking them up.”
Everything is louder at 3am. The thoughts that you can manage during the day become unmanageable in the dark. But calling someone at this hour feels selfish, texting feels desperate, and sitting alone with it feels unbearable. ILTY was literally built for this exact moment. No one loses sleep. You still get to talk.
There's a reason nighttime hits harder. Your brain's prefrontal cortex - the part that provides perspective and rational thought - is less active when you're tired. Meanwhile, the amygdala, which processes fear and emotion, runs at full volume. The result: everything feels more urgent, more hopeless, and more overwhelming at 3am than it will at 3pm. That's not weakness. That's neuroscience.
But knowing why it happens doesn't help when you're in it. You're lying there with something heavy on your mind, and every option feels wrong. Wake someone up and you're a burden. Sit with it alone and the spiral deepens. Go on social media and you feel worse. There's genuinely nowhere to go.
•Reduced prefrontal cortex activity at night diminishes your ability to regulate emotions and maintain perspective
•Stillness and darkness remove all distractions, leaving you alone with unprocessed thoughts from the day
•Nighttime is when control feels most absent - you can't take action, fix things, or reach most people
•Sleep deprivation itself amplifies emotional reactivity, creating a vicious cycle of anxiety and wakefulness
No scheduling. No waiting rooms. No guilt about the time. Open the app and start talking. ILTY is specifically designed for the moments when everyone you know is asleep.
The Mindful Guide can help you separate the 3am version of reality from the actual reality. Not by dismissing your feelings, but by gently introducing the daylight perspective that your tired brain can't access right now.
Sometimes you don't need to solve anything. You just need to get through the night. ILTY can be the company that makes the dark hours feel less empty until the sun comes up and the world feels manageable again.
You don't have to start with "sorry to bother you" or end with "I'm fine, go back to sleep." Just say the thing. That's it.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Multiple factors converge: reduced activity in the brain's rational centers, absence of daytime distractions, the vulnerability of lying in the dark, and accumulated stress from the day that hasn't been processed. Night anxiety is extremely common and doesn't mean your problems are worse than you think - it means your brain is worse at handling them when it's tired.
If you're in crisis, absolutely yes - wake someone up, call a hotline, go to an ER. Your safety matters more than someone's sleep. For non-crisis venting and processing, that's where tools like ILTY can help, so you have an outlet that doesn't require anyone to lose sleep.
Often, yes. Not because of any sleep technique, but because externalizing the thoughts that are keeping you awake gets them out of the loop. Once you've said the thing and had it reflected back, your brain sometimes decides it's been processed enough to let go. It's not guaranteed, but many people find that a short conversation helps more than lying there trying not to think.
ILTY's late night use case - designed for the hours no one else is available.
When racing thoughts and sleeplessness feed each other.
The neuroscience behind why everything feels worse at 3am.
When the need to talk meets a completely empty contacts list.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.