“People keep telling me to exercise, meditate, journal, cook healthy meals, get outside. I can barely get out of bed. Where exactly am I getting the energy for all that?”
Self-care advice is written by people who already have the energy to do self-care. When you're running on empty, a list of healthy habits feels like a cruel joke. ILTY doesn't require you to do anything. You can use it lying in bed, half-awake, at your absolute lowest.
Depression and burnout don't just make you sad. They make you physically exhausted. Your executive function tanks. Decision-making takes enormous effort. And then someone tells you the cure is a seventeen-step morning routine. The disconnect is staggering.
The cruelest catch-22 in mental health is that the things that help require energy, and the thing that's wrong with you steals your energy. You're not failing at self-care. You're dealing with a condition whose primary symptom is the inability to do the things people tell you to do.
You deserve support that meets you at your actual energy level, not a support system that only works when you're already feeling okay enough to use it.
•Depression and chronic stress deplete dopamine and norepinephrine, the neurotransmitters responsible for motivation and energy. It's chemical, not a character flaw
•Most self-care advice assumes a baseline of functioning that isn't available during episodes of depression, burnout, or acute stress
•The guilt of not doing your self-care routine creates a secondary layer of distress that makes everything worse
•Wellness culture frames self-care as individual responsibility, ignoring that sometimes your circumstances are genuinely overwhelming
You can use ILTY from bed. You can use it at 3am. You can type two words or ramble for twenty minutes. There's no minimum participation threshold.
On your worst days, ILTY's Mindful Guide doesn't ask you to do anything. It just sits with you. Sometimes support looks like someone saying 'this is really hard and you're still here.'
ILTY doesn't require daily use, weekly check-ins, or any kind of schedule. Use it when you have the energy. Ignore it when you don't. No consequences.
A two-minute exchange where you say 'I feel terrible' and hear something validating back is worth more than a full self-care routine you can't do.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Yes. That's honestly one of the main use cases. You don't need to be articulate, motivated, or even fully awake. A conversation can be as short as a few messages. There's no minimum.
No. ILTY responds to where you actually are, not where wellness culture thinks you should be. If you're in bed and struggling, it's not going to prescribe a jog. It's going to be present with you in that moment.
Yes. Survival is self-care when you're running on empty. Getting through the day counts. Eating something, even if it's not 'healthy,' counts. Reaching out to anyone, including an AI companion, counts. The bar can be as low as it needs to be.
Support for when you've been running on fumes for too long.
How ILTY provides companionship during depressive episodes.
Understanding the stages of burnout and what actually helps.
When you have all the knowledge but still can't make yourself feel better.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.