Is ILTY a replacement for therapy?

No. ILTY is a supplement, not a substitute. Think of it as a tool for daily mental maintenance between sessions, or for people who aren't ready for traditional therapy. If you're in crisis, please contact a mental health professional.

Are my conversations private?

Yes. Your conversations are encrypted and never used to train AI models. We don't sell data, show ads, or share your information with third parties.

What makes ILTY different from ChatGPT?

ILTY is specifically designed for mental health conversations with therapeutic frameworks built in. It tracks your mood over time, generates actionable to-dos, and offers multiple companion personalities. ChatGPT is a general assistant; ILTY is your dedicated mental health companion.

Can I switch between companions?

Yes. You can switch companions at any time, even mid-conversation. Different moments call for different approaches.

Is there a free version?

ILTY is free to download on iOS. Premium features are available through affordable subscription plans.

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Mental health insights without the fluff. Practical guides, honest perspectives, and real talk about what actually helps.

Practical Guides

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Someone you care about is panicking, and you have no idea what to do. Here's exactly how to help — and what to avoid saying.

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ILTY Team•Apr 12, 2026•8 min read

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ILTY Team•Apr 8, 2026•7 min read

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ILTY Team•Apr 7, 2026•7 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Apr 5, 2026•7 min read

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ILTY Team•Apr 2, 2026•7 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Mar 31, 2026•17 min read

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Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Mar 15, 2026•6 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Mar 14, 2026•11 min read

Science

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Mental Health

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Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Mar 1, 2026•7 min read

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ILTY Team•Feb 28, 2026•10 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Feb 26, 2026•8 min read

Practical Guides

Night Anxiety: Why It Hits Harder After Dark

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ILTY Team•Feb 26, 2026•11 min read

Announcements

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Science

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Mental Health

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Product

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ILTY Team•Jan 24, 2026•9 min read

Product

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Product

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Science

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ILTY Team•Jan 19, 2026•8 min read

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ILTY Team•Jan 14, 2026•9 min read

Announcements

Join the ILTY Beta: Help Us Build Something That Actually Helps

We're looking for beta testers who are tired of mental health apps that don't work. Get free early access and help shape a product that could actually make a difference.

ILTY Team•Jan 13, 2026•4 min read

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Mental Health

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Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Dec 29, 2025•8 min read

Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Dec 27, 2025•7 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Dec 25, 2025•7 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Dec 23, 2025•7 min read

Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Dec 21, 2025•8 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Dec 19, 2025•8 min read

Mental Health

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Practical Guides

The Science of Rumination: Why You Can't Stop Overthinking (And What Helps)

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ILTY Team•Dec 15, 2025•8 min read

Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Dec 13, 2025•5 min read

Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Dec 11, 2025•6 min read

Mental Health

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ILTY Team•Dec 9, 2025•7 min read

Practical Guides

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Industry

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Practical Guides

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ILTY Team•Dec 3, 2025•8 min read

Industry

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