“I'm not in crisis. I get up, I go to work, I function. But I cry in the shower every morning and I haven't felt happy in months. I don't think that's normal but I don't think it's 'bad enough' either.”
The mental health system has two modes: crisis intervention and formal therapy. If you're not actively in danger, and you can't access (or don't feel ready for) therapy, you fall into a gap where no one's paying attention. ILTY was built for this exact gap. You don't have to justify how bad it is. If you're not okay, that's enough.
There's this invisible threshold people create in their heads: you have to be suffering enough to "earn" help. Crying in the shower every day isn't bad enough. Dreading every morning isn't bad enough. Going through the motions of a life you feel nothing about isn't bad enough. By whose standard?
The cruel math of the "not bad enough" mindset is that people wait until they are in crisis before seeking help. Prevention doesn't look dramatic, and the system rewards drama with attention. But the slow erosion of your wellbeing matters. The quiet suffering matters. The gray area where nothing is catastrophically wrong but nothing feels right — that matters.
You don't need a diagnosis to deserve support. You don't need to be at rock bottom. Needing help from a place of "I'm not okay" is valid. Period.
•Mental health resources are concentrated at the crisis level — hotlines, emergency rooms, inpatient treatment. Sub-crisis suffering gets deprioritized.
•Cultural messaging teaches that you should only seek help when you can't function. Functional suffering is dismissed as "normal" stress.
•Therapists often triage by severity, so mild-to-moderate cases get pushed further back in waitlists behind more acute needs.
•Internalized minimizing ("other people have it worse") prevents people from acknowledging their own legitimate need for support.
ILTY doesn't ask you to prove how bad it is. Whether you're processing a hard day or a hard year, the conversation is available.
Not crisis, not fine. The gray area is ILTY's home turf. You can talk about the vague malaise, the low-grade sadness, the quiet frustration that doesn't have a name.
If you need someone to tell you that "functioning" while miserable isn't actually fine, Mr. Relentless will. No coddling, but no dismissing either.
Sometimes the gray area improves with consistent small conversations rather than one big intervention. Use ILTY daily to take the temperature of how you're actually doing.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Absolutely not. ILTY is designed for everyday emotional processing, the gray-area struggles, and everything in between. You don't need to justify your use of it. If you're not okay, that's reason enough.
If you're consistently feeling empty, unmotivated, sad, or like you're just going through the motions, that's worth paying attention to. "Normal" stress doesn't typically feel like that. ILTY can help you explore what's going on, and if it seems like more, we'll be honest about recommending professional support.
There's no hard line. But if your state has persisted for weeks, is affecting your relationships or daily life, or feels like more than a bad week, it's worth taking seriously. You don't have to wait until it's an emergency.
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Honest guidance on when an app is enough and when you need more.
When the fear of starting feels bigger than the pain of staying stuck.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.