“I've been in therapy for a year and my therapist doesn't know about the worst thing in my life. I smile and talk about work stress while the real stuff stays locked up.”
You're spending money and time in therapy but performing a version of yourself that's easier to present. The irony is brutal: the whole point of therapy is honesty, but honesty requires safety you don't feel. ILTY can be the space where you say the unfiltered things — not to replace your therapist, but to practice saying what's real.
Studies show that the majority of therapy clients have lied to or withheld significant information from their therapist. The most common things people hide: suicidal thoughts, how much they're really struggling, sexual issues, and things they think make them a bad person. You're in the overwhelming majority, not the fringe.
The reasons are deeply human. You don't want to be judged by the one person you're supposed to be able to tell everything. You're afraid of mandatory reporting. You've been dismissed before and can't risk it again. You want your therapist to like you. You manage other people's perceptions your whole life — it's hard to just turn that off in a therapist's office.
The problem is that therapy works best when it's honest. You end up paying for sessions that can't help with the real issues because those issues stay hidden. It's frustrating, and it's not a character flaw.
•Shame is one of the most powerful human emotions — it specifically evolved to make you hide parts of yourself that feel unacceptable to others.
•Mandatory reporting laws (therapists must report certain disclosures) create a real, not imagined, reason to hold back on some topics.
•The therapeutic relationship is still a human relationship with power dynamics — your therapist evaluates you, and that awareness changes what you share.
•If you've been judged, dismissed, or punished for honesty before, your brain has learned that vulnerability is dangerous.
ILTY is an AI. It has no facial expression to read, no unconscious biases, no mandatory reporting obligations. You can say anything without worrying about the reaction.
Say the thing you've never said out loud. Once you've practiced saying it to ILTY, saying it to your therapist might feel possible. Think of it as a rehearsal space.
ILTY isn't competing with your therapy — it can complement it. Process the really hard stuff with ILTY first, then bring it to therapy when you're ready.
Some things feel too dark to say to someone who might react. The Stoic Advisor companion responds with grounded wisdom, not shock. It can hold space for the heavy stuff.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
Yes. Research by Blanchard & Farber (2016) found that 93% of therapy clients have lied to their therapist at some point. The most common lies involve minimizing distress, hiding suicidal thoughts, and not admitting to behaviors they're ashamed of.
If you feel safe enough, telling your therapist "I haven't been fully honest" can actually be one of the most powerful moments in therapy. Most therapists will respond with compassion, not judgment. But if you're not ready, that's okay too.
Many people find that saying something difficult in a low-stakes environment first makes it easier to say in a higher-stakes one. ILTY can be that practice ground where you put words to things you've been carrying silently.
Use ILTY to process what comes up between therapy sessions so you arrive more prepared.
A guide to working through the feelings you've been avoiding.
If anxiety is what keeps you from being honest, ILTY can help you work through it.
When the person you trusted with your truth disappeared without explanation.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.