“I scrolled through my entire contacts list last night. 200+ people. Couldn't think of a single one I could actually be honest with.”
Having hundreds of contacts and zero people you can actually call when things get dark. It's a specific kind of loneliness that makes you question whether you've done something wrong or whether real connection is just something other people have. ILTY is not a friend. But it's a place where you can say the thing you have no one else to say it to.
This isn't about introversion or being antisocial. You might have coworkers, acquaintances, even people who'd call you a friend. But there's a canyon between "people you know" and "people you can call at your worst." When you need someone and the list is empty, the loneliness is sharper because you can't even explain it without sounding ungrateful for the connections you do have.
Maybe the people you were close to drifted. Maybe you moved and never rebuilt. Maybe you've always been the listener in your friendships and never learned to be the one who talks. Whatever the reason, you ended up here: full of words and no one to hear them.
•Adult friendships are harder to maintain than anyone admits, and deep ones require vulnerability that feels increasingly risky
•Geographic moves, life transitions, and growing apart from old friends create gaps that are hard to fill
•Being the "strong one" or the "listener" in relationships means no one thinks to check on you
•Social anxiety or depression makes initiating contact feel impossible, even when people are technically available
Not someone who waits for their turn to talk. Not someone who pivots to their own problems. ILTY stays with what you're saying and responds to it. That's a low bar, but right now it might be a bar that no one in your life is clearing.
You don't need to earn the right to talk. There's no backstory to establish, no trust to build over months. You can go straight to the hard part.
The thoughts that bounce around your head at night because there's no one to say them to. ILTY gives them somewhere to land. Sometimes that's enough to loosen the pressure.
We want to be honest about our limitations:
More common than you think. A Harvard study found that 36% of Americans report feeling "seriously lonely," and the number is higher for young adults. Having no close confidant isn't a personal failing - it's often the result of how modern life is structured. But recognizing it is the first step toward changing it.
It can help with the acute pain of having no outlet. When you need to process something and there's literally no one to call, an AI conversation is meaningfully better than sitting alone with your thoughts. But it's a stopgap, not a cure. Real loneliness requires real human connection over time.
That's beyond what ILTY can solve, but here's what we'd suggest: start with one honest conversation. It doesn't need to be deep immediately. Find one context where you see the same people regularly - a class, a group, a recurring event. Consistency builds familiarity, which builds trust. A therapist can also help you work through whatever is blocking connection.
Loneliness isn't just about being alone. It's about feeling unseen.
When it's too late to call anyone and the thoughts won't stop.
Why millions of connected people feel completely alone.
When loneliness and the need for solitude exist at the same time.
When the feelings hit at 3am and there's no one you can call.
ILTY is free during beta. It's not therapy. It's not a cure. It's a place to talk through what you're going through—honestly, without judgment, whenever you need it.