Work Anxiety: When Your Job Is Making You Sick

Sunday evening arrives and the dread begins. Your stomach tightens. You check email compulsively. Sleep becomes elusive as tomorrow's tasks parade through your mind.

Maybe you're terrified of an upcoming presentation. Maybe you can't stop ruminating about that message from your boss. Maybe the workload feels permanently impossible, and you're constantly afraid of being found out as incompetent.

This is work anxiety. And if it's affecting your health, sleep, or ability to enjoy life, it's worth taking seriously.

When Work Stress Becomes Work Anxiety

Everyone experiences job stress. Deadlines, difficult colleagues, demanding projects, all normal. Work anxiety is different:

Duration: Normal stress lifts when the stressor passes. Work anxiety persists even when things should be fine.

Intensity: The fear is disproportionate to actual risk. A minor mistake feels catastrophic. An email from the boss triggers panic.

Physical symptoms: Consistent headaches, stomach problems, sleep issues, muscle tension tied to work.

Avoidance: Calling in sick to avoid certain situations. Procrastinating on tasks because of anxiety, making the anxiety worse.

Spillover: Work worry consumes evenings, weekends, vacations. You're never really "off."

What Drives Work Anxiety

Imposter Syndrome

The persistent fear that you're not as competent as others think, and that you'll eventually be exposed as a fraud. Common among high achievers, new roles, and anyone who's moved up quickly.

Imposter syndrome creates constant hypervigilance: monitoring for signs that others are catching on, overworking to compensate for perceived inadequacy, discounting successes as luck.

Perfectionism

Setting impossibly high standards, then being devastated when you inevitably fall short. Perfectionists often believe that anything less than perfect is failure, and that failure means rejection or worthlessness.

Work becomes a minefield where any mistake threatens your entire self-worth.

Unclear Expectations

When you're not sure what success looks like, everything feels like a potential failure. Organizations with poor communication, shifting priorities, or unclear metrics create environments where anxiety thrives.

Toxic Work Culture

Some workplaces cultivate anxiety deliberately or carelessly: public criticism, micromanagement, impossible demands, punishment for mistakes. In these environments, anxiety isn't a disorder; it's a rational response to threat.

Lack of Control

Anxiety increases when we lack control over outcomes that matter to us. Jobs with high demands but low control (you're responsible for results but can't influence how things happen) are particularly anxiety-inducing.

Previous Trauma

Past experiences of workplace bullying, public humiliation, job loss, or hostile environments can sensitize you to perceive threat where it may not exist.

Common Work Anxiety Manifestations

Meeting Anxiety

Fear of speaking up, being put on the spot, or saying something wrong in front of colleagues. Results in staying silent even when you have valuable input.

Email Anxiety

Dreading the inbox. Over-analyzing tone. Spending too long composing messages. Assuming the worst about messages you receive.

Performance Review Anxiety

Catastrophizing feedback. Sleepless nights before reviews. Inability to accept positive feedback without waiting for the "but."

Presentation Anxiety

Terror of public speaking. Physical symptoms (shaking, sweating) that feel visible to everyone. Avoiding opportunities that involve presenting.

Decision Anxiety

Paralysis around choices for fear of making the wrong one. Over-researching. Seeking excessive reassurance. Taking too long on decisions.

Conflict Anxiety

Avoiding difficult conversations. Not setting boundaries. Agreeing to things you shouldn't. Resentment building from unexpressed concerns.

The Hidden Costs

Work anxiety isn't just uncomfortable. It has real consequences:

Career limitation: Avoiding opportunities, not speaking up with ideas, not advocating for yourself.

Underperformance: Anxiety consumes cognitive resources, leaving less for actual work.

Health impacts: Chronic stress affects immune function, cardiovascular health, sleep, digestion.

Relationship strain: Being mentally at work when physically at home damages personal connections.

Burnout: Chronic work anxiety is a direct path to burnout.

What Actually Helps

Distinguish Your Anxiety from Real Problems

Sometimes anxiety is a signal that something is genuinely wrong. Ask yourself:

• Is the workload truly unsustainable, or does it feel that way because anxiety inflates everything?
• Is your workplace actually toxic, or are you catastrophizing?
• Are the expectations unreasonable, or are you setting impossible standards?

If the problem is the environment, the solution might be changing the environment, not managing your feelings about it.

Challenge Cognitive Distortions

Work anxiety often involves predictable thinking errors:

Catastrophizing: "If I make a mistake, I'll be fired." Reality check: How many people get fired for single mistakes? What actually happens when people err?

Mind-reading: "Everyone in that meeting thought I was an idiot." Reality check: Do you actually know what they thought? Is there evidence, or are you assuming?

All-or-nothing: "The presentation wasn't perfect, so it was a failure." Reality check: What would you say to a colleague in the same situation?

Fortune-telling: "This project will definitely go wrong." Reality check: How often have your predictions actually come true?

Set Boundaries

Work anxiety often worsens because work has no edges:

• Define when you start and stop working
• Don't check email constantly (batch it)
• Protect time off genuinely
• Learn to say no (or at least "not now")

Boundaries aren't weakness. They're how sustainable performance works.

Reduce Avoidance

Anxiety tells you to avoid. But avoidance:

• Reinforces that the situation is dangerous
• Prevents you from learning you can handle it
• Often makes the situation worse (ignored tasks grow)

Gradual exposure helps. Start small. Build evidence that you can cope.

Address Perfectionism

If perfectionism drives your work anxiety:

• Practice delivering "good enough" work
• Notice that imperfect work usually has acceptable consequences
• Set realistic standards before starting tasks
• Challenge the belief that mistakes are catastrophic

Talk to Someone

This might be a therapist, a coach, a trusted colleague, or a manager. Work anxiety often includes a belief that admitting struggle equals weakness. Testing this belief can be powerful.

Many workplaces have Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) that offer free confidential counseling.

Consider Medication

For moderate to severe work anxiety, medication can help create space to build coping skills. This isn't weakness; it's using available tools. Discuss with a doctor.

Evaluate the Environment

Sometimes the answer is: this job is the problem. If you've tried everything and the culture, expectations, or dynamics are genuinely unhealthy, leaving might be the appropriate response, not a failure.

When Work Anxiety Is About Work

To be clear: some workplaces are genuinely dysfunctional. Some bosses are abusive. Some jobs are structured in ways that would make anyone anxious.

In these cases:

1. Document problems
2. Use whatever support systems exist (HR, EAP, union)
3. Build an exit plan if needed
4. Don't gaslight yourself that the problem is your anxiety

Daily Practices

Morning Routine

• Don't check email immediately upon waking
• Build in non-work time before work starts
• Set intentions for the day (reasonable ones)

During Work

• Take actual breaks
• Use the Pomodoro technique or similar for focus
• Practice grounding techniques when anxiety spikes
• Limit open browser tabs (seriously)

End of Day

• Create a shutdown ritual that signals "done"
• Write tomorrow's priority list (externalizes worry)
• Physically leave the workspace if possible

Evening/Weekend

• Have activities that require your attention (not passive scrolling)
• Move your body
• Connect with people outside work
• Actually rest

The Long Game

Work anxiety is highly treatable. With the right approaches (often CBT-based therapy, sometimes medication, always practical coping strategies), most people see significant improvement.

The goal isn't a job without any stress. It's a working life where anxiety doesn't run the show, where you can perform well without constant suffering, and where work doesn't consume everything else.

That's achievable.

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