It was written for Movember and the patterns it works on show up most in men. The prompts themselves say “you” and nothing else. If you hold it in, it is for you.

Is November an official mental health month for men?

No official body calls it that; in the US, June is Men’s Health Month. November is Movember, the men’s health month run by the Movember charity, which covers prostate cancer, testicular cancer, mental health and suicide prevention. We say Movember or men’s health month on purpose.

What if it gets bad while I am doing this?

If you are in the US, call or text 988. In Canada, call or text 9-8-8. Anywhere else, findahelpline.com lists the free, confidential line for your country. This is a reflection series, not a crisis service. Day 29 is about writing your plan for the bad day before it arrives.

November 2026

Movember · Men’s health month

What You Don’t
Talk About.

30 days. Say the thing.

November is Movember, men’s health month, and the message underneath the moustaches is one word: talk. Movember’s own research says more than a third of men in the US avoid talking about their feelings so they don’t seem less manly. This is thirty days of putting words on what you carry. One prompt a day. Written for Movember, built for anyone who holds it in.

Read Day 1→Start with a 7-day free trial

Free to read, no signup. In the app, the challenge is part of the subscription. Not ready for 30 days? Start with the 60-second honesty test.

The series

Five minutes a day.
30 things you don’t say.

Day 1

The Thing You Don’t Say

There is a sentence you have never said out loud to anyone. Write it here, once, exactly as you would say it.

Day 4

The Allowed Feeling

Which feeling are you allowed to show? For a lot of people it is anger, or nothing at all.

Day 13

Alone in the Room

When was the last time you were with people and completely unreachable?

Day 24

Send It

The letter from Day 21. The half sentence from Day 17. Pick one. Send it today.

Or start at Day 1 →

The arc

Name it. Sit with it. Reframe it. Make it hold.

The same four phases the app uses. Check-in days on 7, 15, 23 and 30: rate the week, reread Day 1, see what moved.

Name it

Days 1-7

Put words on what you carry.

Sit with it

Days 8-15

Stay with it instead of fixing it.

Reframe

Days 16-23

Change the story around it.

Integrate

Days 24-30

Make it hold after November.

In the app

The web is the prompt.
The app is the conversation.

On the web you read the prompt and do the work wherever you like. In the ILTY app, on iPhone and Android, a companion with a fixed personality talks you through what comes up, remembers it, and brings it back on the days it matters.

Join any day in November.

Your 30 days start when you do, at your own pace. Missed days stay open, and you have 60 days from joining to finish.

One track. Five companions.

The track has the same name as the challenge. Mr. Relentless if you want to be pushed, the Mindful Guide if you don’t, and three voices in between.

Day 30 is a mirror.

Your Day-1 sentence next to your Day-30 one, a mood map of your 30 days, and the arc between them. Your own words, handed back.

Part of the subscription.

The in-app challenge starts with ILTY’s 7-day free trial and is part of the subscription after that. The web series on this site is free and public.

Start with a 7-day free trial→

Opens November 1. The web series stays free, all year.

Questions

Past challenges

May 2026: the 31-Day Mental Health Challenge

Mental Health Awareness Month. All 31 days are still open.

Day 1 is open.

Five minutes. No signup. Say the thing.