1 in 5 new parents experience postpartum mood disorders. The hardest moments happen at 3am during a feeding, not during a therapy appointment. ILTY is there for both.
You're supposed to be glowing. Bonding. Grateful. Instead you're anxious, exhausted, and wondering why this doesn't feel like what everyone said it would be.
Postpartum mood disorders affect up to 1 in 5 new parents—and that includes anxiety, OCD, rage, and depression. But the cultural narrative says new parenthood is bliss, which makes the real experience feel like failure.
The hardest moments happen at 3am during a feeding when everyone else is asleep. Your therapist's office opens at 9. The gap between 'I'm struggling right now' and 'I can get help' can feel enormous.
ILTY fills that gap. Not a replacement for postpartum care—a companion for the hours between appointments when intrusive thoughts surface, anxiety spikes, or isolation feels crushing.
The hardest moments happen during night feeds. ILTY is available when you're up with the baby and your mind is spiraling.
ILTY doesn't pretend parenthood is all joy. It acknowledges the full spectrum—including rage, grief, and ambivalence—without judgment.
Scary thoughts about your baby are a common feature of postpartum OCD. ILTY helps you understand they're symptoms, not desires.
Designed for moments when you're holding a baby. Quick, responsive support without needing a full therapy session.
Postpartum check-ups are spaced out. ILTY helps you process what surfaces between visits when you don't have professional support on demand.
The identity shift of becoming a parent is seismic. ILTY helps you process the grief for your old self alongside the growth of your new role.
ILTY isn't scripted. Here's the kind of support you can expect:
“I love my baby but I keep having these horrible thoughts about something bad happening. I'm terrified I'm a bad parent.”
Those intrusive thoughts—especially about harm coming to your baby—are one of the most common features of postpartum anxiety and OCD. The fact that they horrify you means they don't reflect who you are. They're your brain's threat detection system in overdrive. Have you been able to talk to your doctor about these?
“It's 4am and I've been feeding the baby for an hour and I just feel so alone. Everyone keeps saying enjoy this time and I'm miserable.”
The gap between what you were told to expect and what you're actually experiencing—that's one of the hardest parts. You're not failing because it's hard. It IS hard. You're awake, feeding your baby, showing up. That's enough right now. What's the feeling underneath the loneliness?
ILTY is support for everyday challenges—the worry, the rumination, the difficult moments. For clinical conditions, it works best alongside professional care.
No. Postpartum mood disorders often require professional treatment, including therapy and sometimes medication. ILTY is a support tool for the moments between appointments—during night feeds, anxiety spirals, or when you need to process feelings without waking your partner.
No. Postpartum mood disorders affect all new parents, including fathers and non-birthing partners. The hormonal, sleep, identity, and relationship changes of new parenthood impact everyone involved.
If intrusive thoughts, anxiety, or low mood are interfering with your ability to care for yourself or your baby, please reach out to your OB, midwife, or a perinatal mental health specialist. ILTY is not a substitute for professional care.
ILTY is free on iOS. When you need support, start a conversation and see if it helps.