Surrounded by people but still alone. Scrolling through contacts with no one to text. Loneliness isn't about being alone—it's about feeling disconnected. ILTY is here.
Loneliness isn't the same as being alone. You can feel desperately lonely in a crowded room, in a relationship, in a family. It's the gap between the connection you have and the connection you need.
It's scrolling through your contacts and not feeling like you can text anyone. It's being at a gathering and feeling like you're watching from behind glass. It's having people in your life but not feeling known by any of them.
And loneliness is hard to talk about. Admitting you're lonely feels like admitting you're unlikable, that something is wrong with you. So you keep it to yourself, which makes it worse.
ILTY isn't a replacement for human connection. But it's someone to talk to right now, tonight, when the loneliness peaks and the contacts list feels impossible. And it can help you figure out what's making connection hard.
Not next Tuesday at your appointment. Not when your friend is free. Right now, when the loneliness is loudest.
With ILTY, you don't need to be interesting, reciprocate emotional labor, or perform wellness. Just talk.
Is it shyness? Past hurt? Feeling different? Not knowing how to start? Understanding what's in the way is the first step.
Not all loneliness needs the same thing. Sometimes you need deep connection. Sometimes you just need to not be alone. ILTY helps you figure out what's missing.
Friday nights. Sunday afternoons. Holidays when everyone seems to have people except you. ILTY is there in the hardest moments.
ILTY won't make you feel worse about your loneliness. No 'have you tried joining a club?' unless you want practical suggestions.
ILTY isn't scripted. Here's the kind of support you can expect:
“I was at a friend's birthday party tonight and I felt completely invisible. Everyone was laughing and talking in groups and I couldn't find a way in. I left early and now I feel pathetic.”
That's a painful experience—being surrounded by people and still feeling outside of it. That disconnect between proximity and connection is real. What happened when you tried to join conversations? Or did it feel impossible to try?
“I moved to a new city six months ago and I haven't made a single real friend. I have coworkers I eat lunch with but no one I could actually call. I don't know how adults even make friends.”
Adult friendships are genuinely hard to build—it's not a personal failing. The structures that used to create friendships naturally (school, proximity, shared schedules) disappear, and what's left requires deliberate effort that feels awkward. What kind of connection are you looking for? Sometimes naming it helps figure out where to find it.
ILTY is support for everyday challenges—the worry, the rumination, the difficult moments. For clinical conditions, it works best alongside professional care.
We understand the irony. But here's the thing: ILTY isn't pretending to be a friend. It's a tool for processing what you're feeling and figuring out what you need. If talking to ILTY at midnight helps you understand why connection feels hard and what to do about it, that's not sad—that's practical.
No, and it shouldn't. Humans need human connection—that's non-negotiable. ILTY is for the moments in between: when you need someone to talk to right now, when you're processing why connection is hard, when you need support figuring out how to build the relationships you want.
Chronic loneliness is a real and serious issue that affects mental and physical health. ILTY can help you process it day-to-day, but if loneliness has been a persistent pattern, working with a therapist to understand the underlying causes can be really valuable. You deserve connection, and sometimes figuring out the barriers requires professional support.
ILTY is free during beta. When you need support, start a conversation and see if it helps.