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Day 13: Your Relationship Autopilot

Today's prompt

In close relationships, what's your autopilot mode? Do you over-give? Pull away? Keep score? Try to fix? People-please? Describe what you do automatically when someone gets close.

Read the prompt above twice. Once fast, once slow. Notice what your first reaction wants to be. That reaction is data.

Autopilot kept you safe once. It might be protecting you from things that aren't threats anymore.

You can sit with this for 5 minutes today and put it down. You can come back tomorrow. There's no completion gate, no streak, no score. The work is the reward — and the work is just paying attention to what came up when you read it.

Day 13 in the ILTY app

Mindful Guide

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Mindful Guide

gentle, present-moment

“Autopilot kept you safe once. It might be protecting you from things that aren't threats anymore.”

In the app, the Mindful Guide sits with what you wrote — slowly, without rushing you toward a reframe.

Sparks

ILTY pulls quotes from your sessions verbatim. On Day 31, you'll see Day-1 you next to Day-31 you — your own words, side by side.

The Mindful Guide can help you see your patterns with compassion.→

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