Is this really it? The job, the apartment, the routine—is this what you chose, or what happened to you? ILTY is here for the questions that keep you up at night.
You're supposed to have it figured out by now. You went to school, got the job, maybe the apartment and the relationship. On paper, you're doing fine. Inside, you're quietly panicking. "Is this it? Is this what I chose? Did I choose wrong? What if I'm wasting the only life I get?"
The worst part is nobody takes it seriously. "You're young, you have time." "At least you have a job." "Just be grateful." They're not wrong, but gratitude doesn't answer the existential question that keeps you up at night: "Am I living the right life?"
Everyone around you seems to have a direction. They're advancing in careers, getting engaged, buying homes, having kids. You're watching from the sidelines wondering when you'll feel the certainty they seem to have. (They don't have it either, but that's hard to see from the outside.)
ILTY doesn't have the answer to "what should I do with my life?" Nobody does. But it can help you explore what you actually want—underneath the expectations, the comparisons, and the fear. Because the quarter-life crisis isn't really about being lost. It's about realizing the map someone gave you doesn't lead where you want to go.
How much of your life path was actually chosen by you? Parents, society, peers—their expectations are loud. ILTY helps you identify what you actually want versus what you think you should want.
Everyone's ahead of you. Except they're not—they're on different paths with different timelines. ILTY helps you disengage from the comparison trap and focus on your own direction.
Not knowing what you want to do with your life is uncomfortable but normal. ILTY helps you tolerate the uncertainty instead of making panicked decisions to escape it.
What would you do if nobody was watching? If money wasn't a factor? If failure wasn't possible? These questions aren't naive—they point toward genuine values.
The idea that you need to have it figured out by 25 or 30 is arbitrary. ILTY helps you question the timeline you've been given and create one that actually works for you.
We want to be clear about our limitations:
Yes. Research shows that significant existential questioning in your 20s and 30s is extremely common. It often coincides with the transition from structured life (school, parental guidance) to unstructured adulthood where you have to create your own meaning. It's not dramatic—it's a normal developmental phase.
Nothing. They don't have it figured out either. Social media and social performance create the illusion that everyone else has a plan. In reality, most people in their 20s and 30s are quietly uncertain about their direction. The ones who seem most certain are sometimes just the most afraid to question their path.
Most choices are more reversible than they feel. The fear of choosing wrong often causes more damage than an actual wrong choice, because it leads to paralysis and inaction. You learn more from trying and adjusting than from analyzing endlessly. ILTY can help you work through the fear so it doesn't keep you frozen.
ILTY is free during beta. Start a conversation and see if it helps with what you're going through.