Dreading the party. Replaying what you said. Convinced everyone noticed your awkwardness. ILTY helps you process social anxiety at your own pace.
It's not that you don't want connections. You do. But every social situation comes with a running commentary: Are they judging me? Did I say something stupid? Do they actually want me here?
You replay conversations for hours—sometimes days—after they happen. That pause before they responded. The look they exchanged. The joke that didn't land. Your brain catalogs every potential misstep and plays it on repeat.
So you avoid. Cancel plans last minute. Hover at the edges of rooms. Say less than you want to because silence feels safer than saying the wrong thing. The avoidance protects you in the moment but shrinks your world over time.
ILTY gives you a private space to process all of it. Before the event, after the event, during the spiral. No social performance required.
Dreading an event? Talk through what scares you. Already spiraling after one? Process what happened without the replay loop.
Your brain assumes everyone is evaluating you critically. ILTY helps you examine whether that's realistic or anxiety filling in blanks.
If saying what you think feels risky with people, practice here. ILTY is a zero-stakes space to find your voice.
Worried about saying the wrong thing? You literally cannot say the wrong thing here. There's no social consequence.
After the party, after the meeting, after the date. When you're depleted and replaying everything, ILTY is there.
No one is going to push you into exposures you're not ready for. Explore your fears at a pace that feels manageable.
ILTY isn't scripted. Here's the kind of support you can expect:
“I have a party tonight and I'm already looking for excuses not to go. I know I'll just stand in the corner and feel invisible, or worse, say something awkward and think about it for a week.”
The pre-event dread is often worse than the event itself—but knowing that doesn't make it go away. Let's look at this practically: what specifically are you imagining will happen? And when you've gone to things like this before, what actually happened?
“I said something weird in a meeting three hours ago and I cannot stop replaying it. Everyone probably thinks I'm an idiot. I literally said 'you too' when someone said 'good presentation.'”
I want you to consider something: can you remember an awkward thing a coworker said in a meeting three hours ago? Probably not—because people are mostly focused on themselves. Your brain is giving this moment far more significance than anyone else in that room is.
ILTY is support for everyday challenges—the worry, the rumination, the difficult moments. For clinical conditions, it works best alongside professional care.
ILTY is a support tool, not a treatment for social anxiety disorder. If you have a clinical diagnosis, professional therapy (especially CBT or exposure therapy) is the evidence-based treatment. ILTY can supplement professional help by giving you a space to process social fears between sessions.
That's actually the point for social anxiety. With ILTY, there's no social evaluation happening. You can't embarrass yourself, you can't be judged, and you can't say the wrong thing. It removes the exact thing that makes social interaction difficult, so you can focus on processing your thoughts.
ILTY isn't a replacement for human connection—it's a tool for processing the fears that make human connection hard. The goal is to help you understand and challenge your social anxiety so you can engage with people more freely, not to avoid people entirely.
ILTY is free during beta. When you need support, start a conversation and see if it helps.