You're supposed to be having the best years of your life. Nobody mentioned the panic attacks, the loneliness, or the 3am existential dread.
College is sold as freedom, self-discovery, and the best four years of your life. For a lot of people, it's also the first time they've been truly on their own—managing their own schedule, their own meals, their own emotions—without the safety net they grew up with.
The counseling center has a six-week waitlist. Your RA is 20 years old and barely managing their own stress. Your parents either worry too much or don't understand. Your friends seem like they're doing fine, which makes you wonder what's wrong with you.
Meanwhile, the pressure is relentless. GPA matters. Internships matter. Social connections matter. You're building your entire future while your brain is still developing, your identity is shifting, and you're sleeping four hours a night.
ILTY doesn't have a waitlist. It doesn't close at 5pm. It won't tell your parents. And it won't make you feel like your problems aren't serious enough to deserve help.
The test you bombed, the paper you can't start, the GPA anxiety that follows you everywhere. Talk through the stress instead of letting it paralyze you.
Making friends feels impossible, or the friends you made don't feel right, or you're pretending to be someone you're not. Process the social anxiety and loneliness.
Missing home doesn't mean you made the wrong choice. ILTY helps you process the grief of leaving without making you feel childish for feeling it.
Who you are is changing—your beliefs, your values, your sense of self. That's supposed to happen, but it's disorienting. Talk through it.
Living with a stranger is hard. Conflict avoidance makes it worse. ILTY helps you figure out what to say and how to say it.
First-gen pressure. Parental expectations. The weight of being the one who's supposed to "make it." Unpack what's yours and what was put on you.
We want to be clear about our limitations:
No. What you're seeing is other people's public faces. College has some of the highest rates of anxiety and depression of any life stage. The fact that nobody's talking about it doesn't mean nobody's feeling it. Your struggle is common, valid, and worth addressing.
There's no minimum severity for deserving support. Academic stress, loneliness, and identity confusion are real problems that affect your wellbeing and your ability to function. You don't need to wait until things are terrible to get help. The earlier you address what's bothering you, the less likely it is to become something bigger.
No. ILTY is completely private. There's no connection to your school, your insurance, or your family. Your conversations are yours. This is especially important if your family doesn't understand mental health or if their expectations are part of what you're processing.
ILTY is free during beta. Start a conversation and see if it helps with what you're going through.