When a song catches you off guard. When you reach for your phone to call them. When the grief hits at 3am. ILTY is here to listen.
Grief doesn't move through five neat stages and arrive at acceptance. It ambushes you in the grocery store. It wakes you at 3am. It hides for weeks and then flattens you over a song or a smell or a Tuesday that looks like every other Tuesday.
People want you to be okay. They get uncomfortable when you're still sad months later. They offer platitudes—"they're in a better place," "time heals"—that land like insults when you're drowning in the absence of someone.
And grief isn't just about death. It's the end of a relationship. A friendship that dissolved. The life you thought you'd have. The version of yourself that existed before the loss. These griefs are real even when nobody sends flowers.
ILTY doesn't get uncomfortable with your sadness. It doesn't need you to be further along than you are. It's just there—at 3am, on the anniversary, during the random Tuesday ambush.
Grief often hits hardest in the quiet hours. When everyone else is asleep and you're alone with the loss, ILTY is there.
There's no correct speed for grief. Whether it's been two weeks or two years, ILTY doesn't judge where you are in the process.
Sometimes you just need to talk about them. Share stories, memories, what you miss. ILTY listens without redirecting.
Grief isn't just sadness. It's anger, guilt, relief, regret—sometimes all at once. ILTY gives you space for the emotions that feel wrong to have.
"Everything happens for a reason" isn't helpful when you're hurting. ILTY acknowledges the pain without trying to silver-lining it.
People shift when sadness lingers. ILTY doesn't need you to perform recovery. Be as sad as you are for as long as you need.
ILTY isn't scripted. Here's the kind of support you can expect:
“My dad died four months ago and everyone thinks I should be doing better by now. I'm not. I still pick up my phone to call him every Sunday and then remember. Every single Sunday.”
Four months is not a long time, no matter what anyone else's timeline looks like. That Sunday phone call was a ritual—years of connection in a habit your body hasn't unlearned. Tell me about those calls. What did you and your dad talk about?
“I was cleaning out my closet and found the sweater my grandmother knitted me. I completely lost it. I thought I was doing okay and then a sweater destroys me.”
You are doing okay—grief and doing okay coexist. That sweater holds something a closet can't organize away: the specific love of someone who made something for you with their hands. What was she like?
ILTY is support for everyday challenges—the worry, the rumination, the difficult moments. For clinical conditions, it works best alongside professional care.
ILTY can provide a space to process grief, but complicated grief (prolonged grief disorder) is a clinical condition that benefits from professional treatment. If your grief is severely impacting your ability to function months or years after a loss, please consider working with a grief therapist. ILTY can supplement that work but shouldn't be your only support.
Not at all. Many people find it easier to express grief without worrying about the other person's reaction. With ILTY, you can say the things that feel too heavy for friends, talk about the person as much as you want, and process emotions without managing someone else's discomfort.
Grief isn't limited to death. The end of a relationship, loss of a friendship, career change, health diagnosis, or any major life transition can involve genuine grief. ILTY treats all loss as valid—you don't need to justify why you're hurting.
ILTY is free during beta. When you need support, start a conversation and see if it helps.