You know you need to say something. You've been avoiding it for days. ILTY helps you prepare so you walk in clear, not reactive.
You need to have a conversation and you've been putting it off. Maybe you need to confront a friend who crossed a line. Set a boundary with a family member. Tell your partner something they don't want to hear. Give difficult feedback at work. Break up with someone. Ask for a raise.
The dread is worse than the conversation will be. But you don't know that, because in your head you've rehearsed a dozen catastrophic versions. They get angry. They cry. They shut down. They leave. They make you feel guilty for bringing it up at all.
So you stay quiet. Another day passes. The resentment grows, or the situation gets worse, or you keep living with something that's not okay. The cost of not having the conversation is always higher than the cost of having it, but it doesn't feel that way in the moment.
ILTY helps you prepare. Not with a script—real conversations don't follow scripts. But by getting clear on what you actually need to say, what you're afraid of, and how to enter the conversation as your most grounded self.
Underneath the anxiety is a need—respect, honesty, change, closure. ILTY helps you identify what you're really asking for, not just what you're upset about.
"They always do this" is a story. "This happened three times" is a fact. ILTY helps you ground your conversation in specifics rather than generalizations that trigger defensiveness.
What if they get angry? Defensive? Cry? Shut down? Thinking through possible reactions—and how you'll respond—reduces the fear of the unknown.
The hardest part is the first sentence. ILTY helps you find an honest, non-attacking way to begin that sets the right tone for the rest.
Why is this conversation so scary? Rejection? Conflict? Guilt? Understanding your fear helps you move through it rather than letting it keep you silent.
We want to be clear about our limitations:
You probably will—most people do in difficult conversations. That's okay. The goal isn't a perfect delivery. It's honest communication. ILTY helps you get clear on your core message so that even if the words come out imperfectly, the intent is right.
They almost certainly won't. Preparing with ILTY isn't about scripting a conversation—it's about grounding yourself so you can respond to whatever happens instead of reacting. Clarity about what you need makes you adaptable, not rigid.
Possibly. Chronic confrontation avoidance often has roots in childhood—learning that expressing needs wasn't safe or led to punishment. If you notice a deep pattern of swallowing your needs to keep the peace, that's worth exploring with a therapist. ILTY can help you start examining the pattern.
ILTY is free during beta. Start a conversation and see if it helps with what you're going through.