Pain nobody can see. Exhaustion nobody understands. ILTY is here for the mental health battle that comes with the physical one.
You look fine. That's what everyone says, or at least thinks. You don't have a cast or a scar or anything visible. So people forget. They wonder why you cancelled again. They stop inviting you. They suggest yoga or positive thinking, as if you haven't tried everything.
Chronic pain isn't just physical. It's the grief of losing the life you had. It's the anger at a body that won't cooperate. It's the loneliness of suffering in a way nobody can see or fully understand. It's the exhaustion of performing normalcy when every moment costs you something.
The medical system often makes it worse. Doctors who don't believe you. Treatments that don't work. The carousel of specialists, tests, and dead ends. The subtle (or not subtle) implication that it's in your head.
ILTY can't treat your pain. But it can hold space for everything that comes with it—the anger, the grief, the isolation, the frustration with a world that doesn't get it. Because the mental weight of chronic pain deserves as much attention as the physical.
You lost a version of yourself—the one that could do things without calculating the cost. Grieve that person. It's a real loss even if nobody died.
Friends get tired of hearing about it. Family doesn't know what to say. ILTY never gets compassion fatigue. Say how bad it really is.
The doctor who didn't listen. The treatment that didn't work. The insurance denial. Process the rage at a system that often fails chronic pain patients.
Pain shrinks your world. Cancelled plans, lost friendships, reduced activities. Talk through the loneliness and figure out what connection still looks like for you.
Tracking medications, managing flares, pacing energy, explaining to people—chronic pain is a full-time job on top of your actual life. Process the overwhelm.
You are not your diagnosis. But when pain dominates every day, it's hard to remember that. Reconnect with who you are beyond the condition.
We want to be clear about our limitations:
Absolutely. Chronic pain is unfair and the anger is a legitimate response to an ongoing injustice. You're not being dramatic. The problem isn't that you're angry—it's that the anger has nowhere to go. ILTY gives it somewhere to go so it doesn't eat you from the inside.
Forced positivity when you're in constant pain isn't helpful—it's dismissive. What can help is processing the difficult emotions so they don't compound the physical pain. There's a difference between 'just think positive' and genuinely working through grief and frustration. ILTY is for the latter.
It's understandable—you've learned that honesty often leads to minimization, unsolicited advice, or discomfort. But bottling everything up creates its own problems. ILTY is a place where you can be completely honest about how bad it is without managing someone else's reaction.
ILTY is free during beta. Start a conversation and see if it helps with what you're going through.