Analyzing every text. Reading into every silence. Wondering if they really love you or if they're about to leave. ILTY helps you process relationship anxiety.
The relationship is good. They haven't done anything wrong. But your brain won't stop: Do they really love me? What did that pause mean? Why haven't they texted back? Are they losing interest? Should I have said that differently?
Relationship anxiety turns love into a threat assessment. Every interaction is scanned for evidence of rejection. A short text means they're pulling away. A quiet evening means they're bored. A compliment to someone else means they wish they were with them instead.
You want to bring it up, but you're afraid of seeming 'too much.' Too needy. Too insecure. So you swallow it, analyze alone, and the anxiety grows in the silence. Or you seek reassurance—again—and feel worse because you needed it.
ILTY is a private space to process what's happening in your head without putting it on your partner. Examine the doubts. Challenge the interpretations. Figure out what's anxiety and what's worth a real conversation.
Is this a real concern or anxiety talking? ILTY helps you examine your doubts without immediately acting on them or stuffing them down.
A late reply doesn't mean they're leaving you. ILTY helps you notice when anxiety is filling in blanks with worst-case scenarios.
Need to bring something up with your partner? Talk through it first. Figure out what you actually want to say versus what anxiety is pushing you to say.
Anxious attachment, avoidant tendencies, fear of abandonment. ILTY helps you recognize patterns that shape how you relate to partners.
Jealousy often has more to do with your fears than your partner's behavior. ILTY helps you process the insecurity underneath.
Some things are hard to say to friends, therapists, or partners. ILTY is completely private—process whatever you need without judgment.
ILTY isn't scripted. Here's the kind of support you can expect:
“My partner hasn't texted me in three hours and I've convinced myself they're losing interest. I know this is irrational. Three hours is nothing. But I've already checked my phone about forty times.”
You already know it's three hours—not three days, not three weeks. Your rational brain has the data. But anxiety doesn't care about data; it cares about the feeling. What does the silence trigger in you? Not 'they might be busy'—what does it feel like?
“I need to tell my partner that something they said hurt me, but I'm terrified it'll turn into a fight or they'll think I'm too sensitive. I've been rehearsing it in my head for days.”
Days of rehearsal usually means the thing matters. Let's work through this: what exactly did they say, what did it bring up for you, and what do you actually need from the conversation? Sometimes the rehearsal gets clearer when you say it out loud to someone who isn't them.
ILTY is support for everyday challenges—the worry, the rumination, the difficult moments. For clinical conditions, it works best alongside professional care.
Some anxiety in relationships is completely normal—caring about someone means there's something to lose. But if your relationship anxiety is constant, overwhelming, or driving behaviors that harm the relationship (constant reassurance-seeking, jealousy spirals, avoiding commitment), it's worth exploring with professional support.
ILTY isn't couples therapy and can't address both partners' needs. But it can help you process your own anxiety, communicate more clearly, and distinguish between real concerns and anxiety distortions. Often, managing your own anxiety improves the relationship significantly.
Sometimes it is. Not every relationship doubt is a distortion—sometimes your gut is picking up on real problems. ILTY can help you examine whether your anxiety is pattern-based (showing up in every relationship) or situation-specific (responding to something real in this one). Both deserve attention, but they need different responses.
ILTY is free during beta. When you need support, start a conversation and see if it helps.